Monday, 31 August 2009

The next few months

In the next few months after that I had to give statements, as did my sister, and I even had to go and do a special video statement. There was an initial court case, in which thankfully he pleaded guilty to. Then I attended his sentencing at Reading Crown Court in late June/early July 2009, where I saw him sentenced to two and a half years imprisonment. During the few months which led up to that final sentencing, I was still studying hard for, and sitting my AS level exams. Including a few drama performances.

Thursday, July 2nd, This article was published in our local newspaper:

Jailed for sex offences
Man tried to groom vitim's sister, West Berkshire magistrates told
A Chaddleworth man has been jailed for sex offences against a young girl.
Forty-six-year old P. . . . E . . . . . almost got away with abusing his victim years ago. Reading Crown Court heard on Monday.
However when he tried to groom her sister, she spoke out and he was arrested. Jailing E . . . . . , Judge S . . . . . . J . . . told him that in his views his "malformed inclinations" meant that he remained a risk to children. G . . . . C . . . . . - R . . . . , prosecuting, said that E . . . . . of Glebefields was caught asking the younger sister to indulge in "sexy time" with him.
The girl told another relative who raised the alarm. There was worse to come when the girl's sister then revealed how she had been repeatedly molested by E . . . . . , the court heard.
E . . . . . was arrested and, at West Bershire Magistrates' Court in Newbury on April 18, he admitted specimin charges of one count of gross indecency with a child and two of indecently assaulting a child. There had been up to seven instances of sexual behaviour in all, the court was told. M . . . . . G . . . . . , defending, said that his client, who worked in the security industry was "very ashamed and terrified of the prospect of what will happen to him in prison".
He added: "He is a man of previous good character but everything he has done in his life thus far is now worthless because of these convictions"
Jailing E . . . . . for two-and-a-half years, Judge J . . . told him: "The age of the girl made her extremely vulnerable. These weren't isolated incidents and your malformed inclinations, in my judgement, remain."
E . . . . . was also placed on the Sex Offenders' Register and made subject to a Sexual Offences Prevention Order. Under the terms of the order he must not return to the family home upon his release and he must have no unsupervised contact with children, other than his own.
Afterwards the girls father said the sentence was a "good result".
He spoke with pride of his daughter's decision to speak out in order to protect her siste and added: "Obviously it's been an ordeal for her but she's very resilient. She wanted to protect her sister and she was determined to come to court today to see E . . . . . jailed.

It's now almost the end of the summer, and I still have to deal with the fact that I have broken apart his family, he has a wife and two children, and everyday I face the fact that I have taken their father away from them. Thankfully they are moving away so I wont have to face them directly anymore, but sometimes I just cry, thinking about everything that has happened. Though although it sounds weird, I'm glad it happened to me and no one else, because I was almost able to deal with it all myself.

Seven Years Later

Seven years on and those events had been shoved so far back into my mind that I didn't believe that they were real anymore. Life went on as normal, our families were still friends, it was the easter holidays (april 2009), and the BBQ's became more common etc. We were all over their house on one occasion and I was sat on a laptop looking for another job, to pay for my driving lessons etc. He stood over my shoulder looking at what I was doing, asking "any luck?"
I replied "No I'm thinking of pimping myself out it's getting so desperate" of course it was a joke, and he wasn't the only person who heard it, a few others did and laughed. I don't know what made him think I was being serious, but for the next week he kept pushing the idea of me having sex with him, with comments like "changed your mind yet" or, "shall I go to a cashpoint now"
I laughed it off and was prepared to continue keeping everything quiet. Until the end of that week, I was sat on my laptop as normal, chatting to friends, and my cousin on msn. She told me that her dad wanted to speak to me, so he called and told me that our neighbour had been talking to my sister inappropriatly on msn. My cousin sent me a copy of the conversation between them. My sister was supposed to be having a sleepover with his daughter that night so I was shocked when I read:
Him: What shall we do later?
Her: Watch a film?
Her:Have a Gang bang? LOL jks
Him Sexy time hehe
Her:lol nah too young
Him:for sex yes, not for sex time he he
Her: What do you mean by sexy time
Him: Whatever you want, flash, fiddle whatever.

All the while my sister was sending the conversation to my cousin he continued with
"we'll see when I get back yes or no"
I felt sick, I told my uncle that I would go get her from their house, he said he'd pick us up because my sister was scared stiff. So we got stuff together and went to stay at my uncles. He called my mum and told her, at the time she was out with our neighbours wife, and so she knew too. Still at this point I thought it was better to keep quiet about everything, and I did for another day, mum and dad went and had a talk with him, and he said "he didn't know what came over him, it was a joke etc." When I got home from my uncles that night I panicked I told a friend everything, and they begged me to tell my mum, but I felt so ashamed, I gave mum my laptop and they told her over msn, she broke down, and I cried for an hour straight, I've never cried so much in my life, as I did in that one night. My dad called the police.

The Abuse

So before I start posting stuff about how my life is now etc. I'll start with what happened to me when I was younger.
I had a fairly normal childhood, as normal as a persons childhood can be whilst living in a small village. I had everything I wanted, being the first born daughter/grandchild/niece/godchild in my generation of my family helped in that sense. The most important thing about living in a village is the friendship and trust within all the neighbours. I live in a council house, and have lived in this very house for the most of my life. There are ten houses altogether in 'The Glebe' and my mum's best friend lived on the other side of 'The Glebe' for 8/9 years, and then they were able to move into the house next to ours. By the time they had moved I was about 9/10. Our families were so close, we'd have barbeques, walk in and out of eachothers houses all the time, it seemed normal. Mum's friend used to go to work on the weekends whilst her husband stayed at home and looked after the kids. So one day when she was out I ventured over to say hi to him, we were all good friends, I didn't see a problem with it. Their kids were outside playing with some of the other children, and he was sat watching t.v. and so I stood in the doorway talking to him. He'd always make crude comments at the BBQ's etc. so I wasn't surprised when on that day he said to me, "Give us a flash", I ignored him and carried on watching the t.v. He persisted, I continued to ignore.
One thing you need to remember whilst reading the next set of events, is that fact that I was only ten years old, and still a child.
"I'll give you a fiver" he said. Now at the age of ten, five pounds was more like fifty, so I did what he asked, and got the money. I kept it to myself.
Though over the next few weeks things slowly started to get worse. There was some more 'flashing', which progressed to him showing me porn magazines, and making me sit on his lap whilst we were watching t.v, sometimes he'd touch me if he wanted to, over my clothes. I didn't think anything of it, each time he gave me five pounds and I left.
The worst incident is the one that sticks clearest in my mind, I went to the house, again his wife and kids were out, he asked me if I wanted to go upstairs, we did.
I jumped on the bed, and was lying on my tummy, I began to flick through a porn magazine. He removed my lower half of clothing, and touched me. He asked me questions like: "Do you touch yourself?" and I just answered "No" to them all. He'd put something on me, some sort of cream, "so that I wouldn't get sore". He asked me if I wanted to see his penis, and I said no, but he showed me anyway, and then said "Do you want to touch it".
All I remember is feeling terrified, and wanting to leave, so I made an excuse and left. I didn't go back after that.

That was all when I was 10, I am now 17